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Relationships - Sandhya Acharya Sandhya Acharya is presently doing an MBA in the USA. She says, "Life for me is a sequence of happiness, sorrow, dreams and hopes and Writing - and expression of life."

What a strange thing to write on. But today it doesn’t seem so strange.

“ I am sorry but I don’t exactly feel the same way.” The words resound in me.
My dear friend, Satya, was going through a crisis. She read out the email that she had received and I couldn’t help remember every word. Words intermingled with her sobs. It was good, I kept telling her. You were brave to ask and you must be brave to accept the truth. And now you must move on. Easier said than done!

Relationships: How they form without you realizing and ensnare you in their shroud. Before you know it, that someone becomes a part of your life, your sorrow, your happiness. Litlle by little, your lives combine and become one. How far can you go? Can you go so far as to lose yourself in the process, lose control over your own emotions? Like a wayward stream. Directionless.

Trust. Do you even question the love of your parents?.. The hands that held you as you took your first step...The voice that comforted you when you feared the dark and the shadows. ..The lap on which you rested your head when you were tired of the noise and the confusion. You never questioned the love. They were a part of you. But not all relationships escape doubt.

Doubt. I read recently. “The opposite of faith is not disbelief. It is doubt.” Does it come from insecurity. From the feeling that this relationship is but a mirage? Do you feel the gnawing fear within you even as you share tender moments that this might not last? Doubt that spells the end of relationships.

Pain: Not physical. I wish this pain could be numbed with anaesthesia. But you cant stop feeling in this case. Your body racks with the strain of a surge of emotions. Disbelief, regret, dissapointment. And above all you feel pain.

Letting go: The lesson you learnt when as a child you let your balloon fly away. It repeats. The harder you try to hold on, the faster it slips. Like sand in your fist.

Life: It doesn’t stop. It brings such beauty and sometimes sorrow. You grow. You experience. You accept. You live.

Relationships: They form, they break but you must let them. You must live them. Feel the sense of onenes, of sharing, of completeness. Let go when you have to. Keep the memories. Learn and move on.

Easier said than done.

Till we connect again...

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