Monday, March 5 2001
Listen To Your Inner Best Friend
- By- Zahra Faisal AsgharZahra Faisal Asghar, resides in Karachi Paksitan. Happily married and a mother of two kids. Loves poetry in any form and feels it is a language of the heart and soul ..She is inspired by anything which touches the heart and believes sesitivity to be a plus feature in anyone to understand the depth of words and what the writer is trying to reflect to the readers. She has worked in the creative deptt of a leading advertising agency as well as a leading newspaper in the gulf which has enhanced her intuitive flair for writing.
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"You are fat, lazy and ugly and no one likes you." Imagine how you would feel if your best friend spoke to you like that,. You'd be shocked, horrified and distraught. You'd vow never to speak to her again. After all you expect your best friend to lend support. Yet every day, you say things just as cruel to someone you're supposed to really care about - you. And it can undermine your self-esteem
It doesn't have to be like this. Everything a good friend tells you, you can tell yourself. The secret to learning to silence the nasty, nagging enemy within, and listen to your inner best friend. You're the most important person in your life. Treat yourself, as a true friend and your journey through life will be more pleasant and rewarding.
Being your own best friend is both easy and difficult, but it requires effort to change old habits. Change is possible, but only when you accept that only you are responsible for how you feel, think and react to events and people- and that your actions and attitudes have consequences. If secretly or unconsciously, you think people don't like you, and a friend fails to say hello in the street, you'll assume they are deliberately ignoring you. Then your inner enemy says "Ha! Even your friends hate you!" But if you believe you’re likeable, you will assume your friend has forgotten their 'contact lenses.' These assumptions affect the way you behave as well as think. If you think you’re dull, you won't talk to people in case you bore them, so you'll never find out what great company you can be
Best friend finding technique is to use the 'mirror work'. For five minutes a day, praise and admire the 'you in the mirror'. Use encouraging words about the day ahead or flattering ones about the previous 24 hours. its as simple as saying "you look great today".
You might feel silly, but its effective. You think you don’t have time? Impossible! You make time to see your best friend, dont you? The only person stopping you from being your inner best friend is you. So the best slogan is "just do it!. Funny - that's exactly what my best friend would say.
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